Have you watched the latest Coffee with Peg and Mamoletsane? On October 14, Help Lesotho’s Founder and Executive Director, Dr. Peg Herbert, and Mme Mamoletsane Khati, Help Lesotho’s Country Director sat down for a virtual chat to discuss the latest on COVID-19 in Lesotho and the organization’s new project in South Africa. They were joined by two psychosocial support professional interns, Motopi and Lineo. Enjoy!
As part of the Help Lesotho’s 2nd GBV Blitz campaign in 2021, youth in Lesotho were encouraged to submit poems using the theme: What does it mean to ‘Do the Right Thing’ to stop gender-based violence in Lesotho?Read the two winning poems below! Each winner received a smart phone and will have their poems published in the national newspaper.
Afrika u hloretseng?
Ke hlorisitso ke hona ho hloka phomolo Bosiu le motseare tsebe li tletsee molumo Molumo o otlang pelo Seboko sa phohomela Poboli ea mehla Sello sa basali ba Afrika
Ba Ila basali ba Afrika ‘Mele e tletse metopahali le mabali Metoahali le mali Ekaba ba sentse kae basali?
Afrika theola moea mofumahali Ke o theola joang ho qhalahang mali? Serata ngoana ke seota ‘m’ae U le rate joang lesea u khakhatho ‘m’a lona? Lea etsa’ng masea lea amoha bophelo? Lea etsa’ng masea lea qhaqha lippeloana? Kana sello se ha le se utloe na? Ruri sa tsuonyana ha se hlomole phakoe.
Ho senyehile kae maapara-kobo? Ho senyehile kae majara-furu-ka-mahetla?
Tsohang banna ba Afrika Robelana tlhokou le fate litsebe Le tle le utloe le se utloelle
Thehang ke hona e be lethoethoe Nkang malebela ke le loma tsebe Hlobolang bohlorisi le apare bohlokomeli Nkang lihlomo tsa lona le eme moleng oa ntoa Le loanele mafumqhali le lese ho a loantsa Sireletsang masea le nene ho a siteloa
Tsohang banna ba mobu oa selokoe Haba se bolokoe Haba se bolokoa ke hona ho sireletsa mafumahali
Tooana tse mesana, matsoara-thipa-ka-bohaleng Ha o baballow mobu peo e tle e behe ha lehholo Baballang basali le bana Ho tloha molokong ona ho isa ho ee lekholo
Nka be ke re ‘ea khaola ea ea’ Empa ha e khaole Kajeno E Kobile Hlooho, e laba-labela khotso Khotso Khaitse ea Moshoashoaila.
A war that can be won
Brutality has won the war against our women and children Violence runs its course in the ruins of our homes
When will it end? Men, when will we stop? Have we not shed enough blood? Have we not caused enough death?
Moshoeshoe tsoha fatshe lea timela Moshoeshoe tsoha barali ba Basotho baa fela Demoralised by the very warriors of our land Lord lord? Carest thou not that we perish?
What has this world come to? For the men who are to protect us Are the very first to abuse us Who can we turn to? Who can hear our pleads? Our mountains are filled with the cries of our mothers, sisters and daughters
And if you say “but it’s not me” then you are part of the problem You see it, you call it out, Not saying it is as bad as advocating for it
I am tired I am tired of being part of a virus that decimates the very species that gives life to the world we live in All they want to do is grab, hit, and smash I am tired
This has to stop We need to stand tall We are the voice of the voiceless
Let us come together as one to fight against the abuse of our women and children One heart One voice One goal We can win this war.
International Women’s Day 2021: In honour of International Women’s Day (March 8), Dr. Peg Herbert gave a Zoom presentation to the ‘Women in Real Estate’ group from RE/MAX Hallmark about her experience with gender equity. Her talk focused on the importance of involving boys and men in the fight for gender equity. Peg shared inspiring examples from her work as Founder and Executive Director of ‘Help Lesotho’.
As part of the Help Lesotho GBV Blitz campaign in late 2020, youth in Lesotho were encouraged to submit essays and poems using the theme: What does it mean to ‘Do the Right Thing’ to stop gender-based violence in Lesotho?A total of 60 Basotho participated in the competition, sharing beautifully written poems and essays on the topic. Though a tough decision, four were selected as the contest winners and each writer received a smartphone prize! Read the four winning essays and poems below.
What does it mean to ‘stop gender based violence’ in Lesotho? By: Likhapha Lehlabaphiri
Gender based violence is violence directed against a person because of that person’s gender or violence that affects persons of a particular gender extremely. Violence against women is understood as a violation of human rights and a form of discrimination against women and shall mean all acts of GBV that result in, or are likely to result in physical harm, sexual harm, psychological harm , economic harm or suffering to women.
GBV can include violence against women, domestic violence against women, men or children living in the same domestic unit. Although women and girls are the main victims of GBV, it also causes severe harm to families and communities.
To ‘Do the Right thing’ to stop GBV in Lesotho means raising awareness of the dangers of harmful traditions or cultural beliefs. It is believed by many Basotho communities that to be considered a “real” woman you have to be circumcised. This can be devastating impact on girls’ lives. We have to help rural families to learn about the facts and change their attitudes to help the practice come to an end.
Challenging and speaking about violence in the home means to ‘Do the Right thing’ to stop GBV in our country. Parents should raise issues concerning GBV with their children and means of mitigation. That would help children to be knowledgeable and recognize where there is GBV and how they help minimize or prevent it.
Engaging boys and young men to become agents of change means to ‘Do the Right thing’ to stop GBV in the mountain kingdom. To be effective, strategies must not only empower women, but also should include men and boys to bring about significant changes. This will help men and boys in ending patriarchal norms, gender inequality and GBV.
To ‘Do the Right thing’ to stop GBV in Lesotho means listening to girls’ experience of violence and their solutions. It is the first step in breaking the cycle of abuse when a woman shares her story of violence. Abused persons needs help and whatever help you can offer as a helper, you also have to listen to then what they think needs to be done in order for them to be helped.
Mobilizing youth to fight harmful practices such as child marriage means to ‘Do the Right thing’ to stop GBV in Lesotho. There is a sesotho saying that “Lets’oele le beta poho”, this simply means that we often tacle the biggest problem when we are many. As the youths of Lesotho, we have to stand and say it is enough with violating the rights of young children. I believe that when we are together, our voices will be heard that forces marriages have to come to an end, it is wrong as parents to force your child marry someone older that them and it is also wrong for an old man to be in a marriage alliance with a child.
In conclusion, GBV is a major issue in this country, it is happening and it is for us as individuals to prevent it nationwide. We have to help the victims of GBV to heal and believe in change.
Full stop to Gender Based Violence By: Rets’epile Mokhauli
By virtue of being a woman We are born vulnerable At times our life expectancy is significantly shortened Simply because we are women
Like a hungry lion you came roaring My feet trembled You left my soul troubled I have become a graveyard A place for you to dispose of your lifelessness Day in day out inside of me I see not a precious angel I believed I was Just a piece of useless object
With my God-given curves You thought I seduced you You forced yourself on me What about my innocent babysister And granny with her long dress Did she seduce you too Just admit you are monster You threatened to eliminate me permanently If I breathed a single word So I’ve become a loner
As though it wasn’t enough You beat my mom into a pulp For mistakenly adding too much salt into the gravy She wears makeup to cover her scars
You say you love her but is this the love she deserves She keeps crawling at your feet begging for mercy Neighbors saw her running outside half naked They looked away because they claim they do no want trouble Mahokela le hokae oeeee Basotho ho senyehile kae?
I marched towards losing hope I thought I would not cope But something inside me awoken If I speak, he won’t touch me again I need to do the right thing The words kept making an echo in my head
I got you behind bars huh So you cannot add more statistics to GBV You said you’d kill me That was just a threat to keep me from blabbing
Let’s create posts everywhere Hashtags all over Make a noise For our silence is too loud STOP GENDER BASED VIOLENCE!!
So dear abusers You feel you deserve a thank you right? Am I am sorry it was my fault? You should be ashamed of yourselves
Listen woman It’s not your fault The police, the psychologist, the neighbor Yes you need to change your tune
You can’t kill me, sell my body parts And sleep like a baby How do you do it?
Taking me to a place unknown Making money with every man that enters and leaves my precious baby Which I had preserved till marriage
Let’s do the right thing Teach our children to know that violence is bad That our children speaking does not mean seeking attention Raise awareness Grow more than enough platforms Approach media outlets, activists with all the confidence Lets spit fire that awakens every man’s soul to desire to stop violence Make it our goal to grow exponentially To make a bigger difference in our small beautiful country Leave no stone unturned If we despise violence We will fight it till justice prevails
Till Lesotho becomes a safe haven for all its citizens Let’s see our women as precious jewels We are responsible for change Do the right thing Stop Gender based violence!
ETSA SE NEPAHETSENG, NENA TLHEKEFETSO EA BASALI LE BANANA By: Makhanya Lekhutle
Koli-ea-malla hae ha Moshoeshoe, Basali ba apoloa likobo nyene le bosiu, Koko le es’o ome ngoetsi e ngaletse hae habo eona, Hloohong e roetse le sa ts’eloeng ke nta leqeba.
Thoetsana ea motse li ola molora lia hlaha, Ba se ba e sheshenne bo kobo-thokoa, chobeliso, Haele lilemo e sa tsoa ts’ela atla tse peli maoba, Sekolo sona e se etla kopana le sona litorong.
Mosi foqo, moqebelo ha ‘Manthabiseng, Nthabiseng o ile kae ha moea o tletse tlhonamo tje? Ba mo isitse masihloane thaka-mphato tsa Ranthabiseng, Mats’eliso e se e le a se nang phoofo phelo bo khaolelitsoe.
Bo- Majoro thibang kholumolumo e metsa bo- Efa ba Lesotho! E kakatleleng ka litlena le e time bohale, Ketsa- molao ha e tiise letsoho ho khalema, Bo- Ramatla, bo-Rapeto ba tle ba ts’abele ruri.
Makhotla akofang ho aba toka ho mahlatsipa, Hlohlelang lisenyi tsena ntloana-ts’oana, Ho bona eke ba mollong oa lihele, Bo-Ramatla, bo-Rapeto ba hlapele mats’ehong.
Lefifing le lets’o la tsikitlano ea tlhekefetso, Chaba se lahlehile se phuthile matsoho, Thuto ha e be leseli toala! ho lelekisa lefifi, Bo Adama ba ananele bohlokoa ba basali.
Hlahlellang tlhankana ea lona e sa thuthuoa, Thuto ba e anye letsoeleng, e otlolloa e sa le metsi, Ngoanana ke khalase a ts’oaroe ka hlokolosi! Mosali ke khalase a ts’oaroe ka hlokolosi!
Lingoli barutehi se phetseng ho ngola, Evangeli ka tsa tlhekefetso e be kobo-anela, Marena, mak’hanselara Tele ho ea Mechechane, Hlanya lea kopaneloa epang li pitso hlaha e time.
Sechaba, baruti, matichere etsang sakana-la-nkope, Phunyeletsang metseng le metsaneng, Ts’ehetsang mahlatsipa a tlhekefetso, Mofuthu le lerato ho bona e be lelomolo.
What does it mean to do the right thing? By: Poloko Mokoai
Patriarchy can be defined as an integral system which is consistent of male dominance enforced by violence which is often done on women. Gender-based violence is a product of toxic masculinity which is so rife in our societies. The endemic of gender-based violence is global phenomenon and Lesotho is no exception. Unfortunately, the convictions are not in alignment with the number of reported cases. In as much as some people may want to help eradicate abuse against women, they claim to not know what needs to be done to stop femicide. The essay will try to shed light in what it means to do the right thing.
People need to be educated on what gender-based violence is in order to know how to fight against the deadly social ill affecting our societies. Nelson Mandela said education is the most powerful weapon which we can use to change society. Gender-based violence is more than just raping women but also involves innocent micro-aggressions which make women uncomfortable. It can be a touch on her shoulder that makes her feel uneasy to the catcalling on the streets. Learning about the dynamics of gender-based violence will help people to know when they are crossing the line and to stop what they are doing. Moreover, it is quite clear that men do not necessarily understand what consent is and need to be taught about it. Consent is when two people are consciously in agreement for sexual activity to take place.
To do the right thing needs courage especially for men because speaking out could have them labelled as weaklings by their peers; but they need to speak out against rape culture. At social gatherings, men need to call out crude sexual comments said as jokes by their friends and to have conversations about what gender-based violence is. Instead of protecting their friends, they need to ostracize people in their circles who are part of the issue so as to discourage others from abusing women. Men tend to be enablers of abuse against women by applauding peers who claim to know how to put their women in line hence fixing the problem needs to begin with men to know what is right or not. For instance, boys in a group catcall-girls and make sexual comments while laughing which terrifies women. This culture has been long going for years and needs to be put to a stop.
Listening and believing victims is a step towards doing the right thing because it takes bravery to talk about an assault. Most women suffer in silence for fear of being blamed and humiliated when they speak up. When women report the crime, they take the first step towards breaking the cycle and stopping their abuser from doing the same to someone else. Furthermore, giving victims a safe space to talk about their abuse not only helps them have their sense of power back but also helps them deal with what happened and work towards the healing process. What`s more, victims will speak up without fear of being crucified or ostracized by their communities.
To fight against gender-based violence we need to dismantle the criminal justice system that is deeply rooted with patriarchy. The criminal justice system enables victimisation of women by allowing rapists to make bail and roam the streets freely. For example, a man was released on bail so he could prepare the funeral of the wife he murdered a few weeks ago. What`s worse, there has been cases reported whereby victims of sexual assault are mocked by police officers who take pleasure in asking them senseless questions and making the affected person keep repeating the event. The criminal justice system needs to protect women and children by imposing longer sentences for criminals and to work on rehabilitating them so that they can successfully be reintegrated back into the societies.
To infer, gender-based violence is destroying communities and need to be taken as a matter of emergence throughout the year not just during the 16 days of activism. For a country to be success, it first needs to root out toxic masculinity and work on equality for all genders. Doing the right is not just the responsibility of the government but for every person. As the Sesotho phrase states: letshoele le beta poho”. We all need to work together to combat GBV.
Written by Peg Herbert, Help Lesotho Founder and Executive Director, December 2020.
Many of us are watching The Crown on Netflix. I had enjoyed the first two seasons as they rolled out, never imagining I would meet ‘The Queen’. As you know, I do meet regularly with the real Queen of Lesotho and the Princess often, but meeting Claire Foy of The Crown was a complete surprise.
One morning last March, UNICEF brought an International Ambassador to see our Young Mother’s Program. We have two parts of that program – one funded by two women in Canada and one funded by UNICEF. The latter pay regular visits to Lesotho to show UNICEF guests the program.
I knew that the group was travelling up to our remote location to visit with the pregnant girls and young mothers in Butha Buthe program and then back to the Hlotse Centre. It was suggested that I join the lunch.
When I was introduced to Claire Foy—the Queen in the first two seasons of The Crown, and the UNICEF Ambassador in question– I frankly told her that I had no idea it would be her and that if I had known, I would definitely have changed my shirt! We enjoyed a lovely, relaxed 90-minute visit over lunch.
The staff told me how intent Claire was listening to the girls, how interested and humble she was in what they had to say and just, frankly, how lovely she was.
Meeting Claire was a pleasure. What are the chances of meeting such a global movie star in a remote location, in a country most people do not know, in the middle of southern Africa. Quelle suprise!